Future Focused Co-Parenting

It’s very easy to get stuck in the day-to-day stress of life. Add in a difficult separation, ex-partner, or family law proceedings (or all three) and it’s easy to become overwhelmed. This overwhelm inhibits our ability to create a vision for the future. We find that many parents are just surviving the day-to-day grind and […]

Protective Caregiving

How to create a safe, secure environment while sharing care after family violence.  One of the most difficult aspects of family law is coming to terms with sharing time when there have been allegations of family violence. Even when children are named on a protection order, the Family Court, after considering all the issues in […]

Doing What It Takes

Doing What It Takes Within my Parenting Coordination and Mediation work I am grateful to come across parents who have made sacrifices to shield their children from their feelings and animosity towards the other parent. Sadly, it’s often not enough.  What I do hear frequently is “I will do absolutely anything for my kids”.  This […]

Little Changes for a Happy Christmas

At this time of year, there is an inevitable rush to have matters resolved for the long school holidays, including Christmas. There is a heavy reliance on services to help parents and while I encourage people to utilise those services, it’s also possible to organise this without interventions.

Recent Changes to the Family Court – and what it means for parents

On the 1st of September 2021, the Family Court and Federal Circuit Court merged, creating a new pathway for parents navigating disputes after separation. The new abbreviated name is the FCFOA. The purpose of the FCFOA is to create a faster, less stressful process for finalising matters in dispute. The focus is on early resolution […]

Letting Go – the powerful end to separation conflict

In working with the volume of parents I do on a daily basis, one constant I notice in ongoing conflict cases is the subconscious emotional attachment each parent has to the past relationship, or to their co-parent. Yet, if I asked any of these parents if they were still emotionally attached, they would disagree and […]

The Non-Negotiable Coparent

There is an enormous cost to society if we do not radically change the pathway for parents in dispute. We tend to focus on fixing the legal system when what we need to consider deeply is embarking on a support pathway that makes the court system far less relied upon. Our children, the very people we purport to protect, carry the lasting burden of their parents’ conflict.

Activities for engaging your children online

Often the non-resident parent (be that for a week, or extended period) will report having difficulty in engaging children online. Phone calls, Skype and Facetime are all wonderful ways to interact. But how do you keep them interested? Firstly, I think it’s important to acknowledge that online engagement can be both necessary and sometimes the […]

Nurturing Children through Separation and Divorce

There are many aspects of separation and divorce. While it’s natural that parents need to resolve disputes to their satisfaction, it’s important that the children don’t become lost in that process.  Parents who are in dispute present to mediators, or their lawyers, with issues that revolve around their needs and what they want to walk […]